What I’ve Learned From e s t

Please take responsibility for reading this and understanding it and making it your own.

Responsibility starts with the willingness to acknowledge that you are cause in a matter. It starts with the willingness to deal with a situation from and with the point of view whether at the moment realized or not, that you are the source of what you are, what you do and what you have. This point of view extends to include even what is done to you, and ultimately what another does to another.

Responsibility is not fault, praise, blame, shame or guilt.

All these include judgments and evaluations of good and bad, right and wrong or better and worse. They are not responsibility as they are all beyond a simple acknowledgment that you are cause in your own experience………


Hawaiian Facts

The state of Hawaii, with its natural beauty, is one of the most breath taking scenic places in the world. A fifteen hundred mile long chain consisting of 132 islands, reefs and shoals stretching from the southeast to the northwest. However, 99.9% of the land area is on a fairly close group of eight major islands. It has a population of about one million people with 80% of them living on oahu.

OAHU is the third largest island of the Hawaiian chain. Known as the gathering place because it once served as a meeting place for the Hawaiian island chiefs.

Oahu is also famous for some of the best surfing in the world on its north shore with 30ft plus winter waves. An island formed by the merging lava of two great volcanoes the koolau, whose mountains overlook Honolulu and Waikiki and the waiawae, which looms in the distance. Extinct for centuries, time and erosion have sculpted them into a series of giant palis (cliffs), magnificent bays (including Pearl Harbor) and meandering beaches.

MAUI is known as the valley island and the second largest island in the chain. It is believed it is named after the Sharman hero of legend, Maui kupua. Its largest volcano, haleakala, last erupted in 1790. The town of lahaina served as Hawaii’s capital for the first decades of the nineteeth century.

Today, lahaina is a modern tourist mecca. Maui plays host to visitors drawn by the awesome beauty of haleakala national park, hana’s glorious tropical rainforest with its waterfalls and natural pools, and a coastal string of beaches and resorts. The perfect blend of the old Hawaii and the new.

KAUAI, the garden island, eastern most and oldest of the major Hawaiian island, it is considered by Hawaiians as the most spiritual place in the islands. It is famous for its magnificent natural beauty, including the fern grotto and the na pali coast. Nature showed no restraint in creating kauai, carving great canyons, valleys, mountains and sea cliffs from the long extinct volcano called waialeale. Today Waialeale’s usually cloud banked summit is considered the wettest spot on earth, averaging between 450-650 inches annually. Legendary films such as South Pacific, Blue Hawaii and Jurassic Park were filmed on the island. No place in Hawaii outdoes Kauai.

MOLOKAI, Was once known as the ‘Lonely Island’, because sufferers of leprosy were segregated by the natural isolation of the kalaupapa peninsula, Today the island is known as ‘The Friendly Island’. Molokai is famous for its mule rides down beautiful cliff trails, Its many temples, And its low level of development. LANAI, is the sixth largest of Hawaii’s main islands, Lanai gets its nickname, The Pineapple Island, From this tropical fruit. Just about all of Lanai’s 2,400 residents lived in the town of Lanai City. Lanai invites the adventurous to set out and explore its up country forest and isolated beaches. The pineapples are gone now and resort development has taken their place.

HIIHAU, is the seventh largest island, And it is called The Forbidden Island. The whole island is 70 square miles and is a private ranch, Owned by the Robinson Family. People are under the impression that the Hawaiian’s there live in the old ways. Actually, What that means is that they live in a village like the plantation era of the 1800’s.

The island is famous for a particular kind of shell necklace made there. The population of the village is about 200. Hawaiian is the first language. KAHOOLAWE, is the smallest Major Island, Only 45 square miles. After Pearl Harbor, The navy took it over for bombing practice and still won’t give it back. The name kahoolawe means ‘The one that was taken away’ The old name of the island was Kanaloa.

HAWAII, Known as the big island because it is more than twice as big as all the other islands combined and still growing. It is the youngest island in the chain with five large volcanoes, Two of which are still active, Mauna Loa(Tallest Mountain in the world, Measuring from the sea bottom) and Kilauea (Legendary home of Pele).

The three inactive Volcanoes are, Mauna Kea (Where it snows sometimes) and Kohala (In the north) have not erupted in historical times. Hualalai, Overlooking Kona on the west coast, Last erupted in the 1800,s The big island is an island of Volcanic drama, Great natural diversity and powerful links to the Polynesian past. Most heavily populated of the islands in ancient times, The big island’s rebuilt Heiaus (Temples) today provide unique insights into the Hawaii of myth and legend.

The island is also famous for its orchids, coffee, and macadamia nuts, Dramatically eroded valleys and towering sea cliffs. It’s a combination that makes the big island impressive in more than just size. A new Volcano is erupting underwater about twenty miles off the southern coast of the big island. It is the beginning of a new island called LOIHI.

Bob Toledo – 2005

About Forgiveness

Forgiveness is letting go of the past. It’s about releasing a past hurt or resentment. Forgiveness does not require justice or even an apology. The person who wronged you may not deserve to be forgiven for the heartache or grief they caused you however, your mind, body, and Soul deserve to be free of hatred, anger, pain, and hurt. Likewise, if it was you who caused the pain, forgiving yourself is just as important. The act of forgiving allows you to begin a life without chains which tie you to the past. If you want to be happy in the present and the future, you need to untie yourself from your past hurt.

Perhaps the real issue is that we should forgive ourselves for allowing that personal pain to interfere with our need to move on with the flow of life. Forgiving yourself brings inner peace that allows you to live fully. Forgiveness is a commitment to a process of change and healthy change is necessary to have a happy life and a happy life is your birthright.

Allowing negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, may find you being swallowed up by your own bitterness and a sense of injustice. Then, you become a victim twice; anxious and unable to enjoy the present while being stuck in the past.

Every act of forgiveness allows us to manifest a self-directed act of ‘soul retrieval’. Forgiveness empowers us and those who we forgive. While one may think of forgiving others of offenses (real or imagined) as ‘The right thing to do’, in reality, it is far more. Forgiveness frees one from the burden and energy drain of maintaining a connection to a past event or injury. It is a benevolent act that aids and heals others and the collective. For many, it can be one of the most difficult things that they will ever have to do. As Mahatma Gandhi once said, ‘An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind’.

There is an ancient Hawaiian practice for healing through forgiveness called Ho’oponopono, it is used when you need to forgive someone for a past transgression against you. Ho’oponopono teachers call this practice ‘cleaning’; you clean yourself of your own negative feelings and erase from your consciousness whatever negativity that is not working for you. Through this practice of ‘cleaning’ you are expressing the fact that you no longer wish to suffer from a current or past hurt. It is normal for you to wish the other person to change however; the only person you can change is you.

Another way to practice forgiveness is thru meditation. By quieting your mind, you open yourself up to the divine awareness of the present moment. Meditation will give you a powerful sense of clarity and a realization of the bigger picture. Meditation will also help you to clear all your mental and emotional negative energy and you will begin to feel an abundance of Love in your life. This will enable you to let go of the past much easier.

Forgiveness is unlocking the door to set someone free then realizing that you were the prisoner.

Bob Toledo

The Spirit of Aloha – Origin and Meaning

Word meanings change over time, the word Aloha did not have its current prominence in old Hawaii, the word was not used much by previous generations. Although it was a way of life in Hawaii at the time, it was practiced only by the ‘ali’i’ (chiefs) it was not extended to the maka’ainana (commoners) in ancient times. The customary practice was when life was ending for a family patriarch or the Kahuna of a school of knowledge; he would call for his successor to come so he could pass his wisdom on to him.

The declaration of the rights of man was proclaimed by King Kauikeaouli Kamehameha III in 1839 and was given freely as an act of benevolence. The first sentence of this declaration states the following; (Translated from Hawaiian to English) ‘God hath made of one blood all races of people to dwell on this earth in unity and Blessedness’. What a beautiful and eloquent concept.

This was a King whose right to dictatorial authority was earned by the conquests of his father, but whose heart was infused by his Love of God and the compassion he had for his people.

Hawaiians of old could not read or write it was the missionaries who introduced them to a written language. It is the early western explorers to Hawaii who first used the term ‘Aloha’ to describe their admiration of Hawaiians as the ideal natives. It is said that it was tourists who started to use it as a slang word.

Those who study Hawaiian culture know that the word ‘Aloha’ derives from ‘Alo’ and ‘ha’ and refers to the face to face sharing of breath. Metaphorically ‘Aloha’ has a much deeper meaning. It refers to the mutual experiencing (Alo) of each other’s Spirit or Soul (Ha).

The root word is found throughout Polynesia to mean Love, Compassion, Sympathy or Kindness, Early recorded uses in Hawaii emphasized that ‘Aloha’ meant Love of ‘Kin’, however, Today it extends to all people.

Aloha seeks to be good for a person, with no conditions attached. A person who has the ‘Spirit of Aloha’ Loves, even if the Love is not returned and such is the Love of God. Hawaiians today believe Aloha to be the most important of all ancient Hawaiian values.

‘The Aloha Spirit’ is another name for God. It is the immanence of a transcendent cosmic Spirit, infinitely powerful, and present at the core of every person. It unifies us, and makes us fundamentally equal as beings of infinite value, and calls upon us to treat each other and our environment with reverence, respect, and compassion.

‘The Aloha Spirit’ is an actual law, Hawaii revised statutes, section 5-7.5 states ‘The Aloha Spirit is the coordination of mind and heart within each person. It brings each person to the Self. Each person must think and emote good feelings to others’.

Aloha means mutual regard and affection and extends warmth in caring with no obligation in return. Aloha is the essence of relationships in which each person is important to every other person for collective existence. Aloha means to hear what is not said, to see what cannot be seen and to know the unknowable.

One of the most beautiful compelling beliefs about the Hawaiian culture is that there is no such thing as a bad person. People are born good. There is only bad behavior. This is a belief every person can choose to have and you don’t have to be of Hawaiian blood or ancestry to believe in the goodness inherent in humanity.

‘The Aloha Spirit’ is the welcoming and nurturing of all people. Aloha is a very active, nonviolent path, the practice of unconditional Love, kindness, harmony, and the elevation of the senses. Aloha is caring, respect, compassion, enlightenment, and international, with an attitude of ‘What can I give’ rather than ‘What can I get’

Aloha is the bridge between the Spirit and the heart, and If you embrace this attitude and practice it in your everyday life, you will soon realize that ‘The Spirit of Aloha’ is you.

Bob Toledo
April, 2014


The world we live in today is traveling at lightning speed, with all the ever changing technological ‘Advances’ that we experience everyday it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that, since past generations did without it, this new generation must therefore have progressed and that we are better off.

With all of this incredible technology and ceaseless progress, our world has become increasingly detached from our roots, a world of growing complexity and a planet bent straight under the weight of our unending march toward the future. Is it any wonder that somehow for every wondrous new discovery that we celebrate, we are not any happier or healthier in our everyday lives.

We must show some discrimination in terms of what we choose to celebrate. Even the most fervent child of our modern times cannot deny this simple fact: For every advancement in recent history, And for every breakthrough in new technology that captures the public spotlight, we as human beings are worse off than ever before, all of these new ‘Advances’ have made our lives very stressful.

We have a health crisis of unimaginable proportions, with Weekly rituals of stress and exhaustion, and this little voice inside of us that says what so many of us are just starting to admit; Something has to change.

Life was much simpler when apple and blackberry were just fruits.

Although there are many benefits to all this technology, what is necessary is to put it into perspective. It seems to me that we are losing touch with what is really important. The question is are we really advancing? So take a moment and unplug, Take a break from technology and find your smile.

Here are some simple things to help make your life more fulfilling and keep it in balance:

Notice the world around you. See all life as Sacred. Get outside and enjoy the natural world. Connect with people. Be generous with your Love, when you Love someone, tell them and tell them often. Do the right thing, even when it’s hard to do. Look for the good in those around you. Never say things in anger, because words cannot be taken back. Don’t waste time thinking of what you don’t have but rather, thank God for what you do have. Be impeccable with your word. Volunteer your time, energy and skills. Learn how to Meditate. Find your true purpose. Listen to what people are saying to you. Practice random acts of kindness. Always do your best. Be curious and get inspired. Respect everyone you meet, Even if you don’t agree with them, everyone has something to teach you. Figure out what’s really important to you. Be comfortable with who you are.

It will be to our benefit that we always remember not to let our technology surpass our Humanity.

Bob Toledo
September 2013

Christmas – A State of Mind

It’s Christmas Eve; Stores are closing and last minute shopper’s scurry for the door so they can get home to be with their children, family and friends. Weary sales people breathe a sigh of relief as they finally get the chance to get off their feet and the ‘Magic of Christmas’ officially begins. A time when the size of the Christmas tree really doesn’t matter, in the eyes of a child they are all 30 feet tall. The innocence of Children as they anticipate the arrival of Santa Claus. It is that time of year when the child in all of us comes out to play.

There are many traditions on how people celebrate Christmas around the world, but I have found that we all have one thing in common, for that one day of the year; People are kinder and much more caring toward each other. It is a time for Peace on Earth and Goodwill to Men. It is the season when we can lay aside all worry, indulge in sentiment without censure, and assume the carefree faith of childhood and just ‘Have Fun’. Whether they call it Yuletide, Noel, Maligayang Pasko, Makahiki or Christmas. People all around the earth thirst for its refreshment as the desert traveler for the oasis.

Christmas is tenderness for the past, Courage for the present, and hope for the future. It is a fervent hope that every cup will overflow with Blessings rich and eternal, and that every path may lead to peace. It is the only time of year when people follow their natural impulses and express their true nature without feeling self-conscious and perhaps foolish. Christmas in short, is about the only chance a person has to be themselves.

People are at their finest this time of year, we are, what we should always be, thinking more of others than of our self. We are less selfish than at any other time. Christmas is not about opening presents as it is opening our Hearts. The wonderful moment of ‘Peace on Earth’ for one night, it seems possible. It’s a time when everyone experiences an emotional state of rest. However, like most emotions, it’s temporary. When the tree comes down, the peace is gone, and the disillusioned world returns to its normal peacelessness.

This is the time that you must ask yourself; Do your family and friends need your Love more during the Holidays than any other time of year? Do the homeless need food, shelter and your understanding more during the holidays than any other time of the year? And do the children of the world need food, clothing and your compassion any more during the holidays than at any other time of the year? Christmas is not a date- It’s a state of mind.

Wouldn’t life be worth living and dreams be realized, if we could find a way to keep the Spirit of Christmas all year through and give to your life it’s highest beauty and joy. It can, if you have the willingness to give your kindness and understanding to everyone that comes into your life. This is truly the greatest ‘Present’ anyone could receive, the Wonderful ‘Gift’ of you. May we find Peace on earth and goodwill to all men not only for one day but every day.

Merry Christmas and a Happy Peaceful New Year.

Bob Toledo

November, 2012

The True Meaning of “Soul Mate”

The concept of Soul Mate came from Greek mythology. According to the myth, our ancestors once had 2 heads and 4 arms. At some point they offended a God, so that God punished them by splitting them down the middle, resulting in the creation of humans. As a punishment, we were condemned to spend our lives searching for our other half, our Soul Mate.

In the late 1950s the term Soul Mate became very popular; it was used to describe two people with a strong love for one another and others who are looking for that connection. There is a belief that each of us has only one Soul Mate who we are destined to meet one day. The other half of our self that has been missing, and once we are reunited with this love, it will make us whole and complete again. However, Soul Mate means different things to different people.

Soul Mates can have various types of relationships that don’t always involve romantic love. They can be close friends, co-workers, teachers, family members or even a stranger who comes into your life for a brief moment in time. Often this Soul Mate comes in and out quickly for the purpose of helping us in some way or to teach us a lesson. This person could be anyone who inspires or influences your life in a positive or sometimes even in a negative way depending on the lesson that you need to learn at the time.

We meet and interact with our Soul Mates often having known them in a previous life in a similar situation. Many Soul Mate interactions occur because there is a karmic reason for them to meet. This could be due to an unresolved issue, an emotional connection or experience that took place in a past life. It is said that Soul Mates are the ‘Karmic ties that bind’. Souls often reunite in order to work out past life issues, sometimes reversing roles in a similar situation in this life.

We subconsciously attract our various Soul Mates in order to work on any past issues we may have with them. This is why we are sometimes drawn to certain people for no apparent reason. This is what is called an ‘Instant Attraction’ to someone.

Sometimes we are drawn to a person simply because we enjoy being with them on some level, and may have agreed pre-birth to meet again in a positive way just to enjoy each other in this lifetime.

Then there are people that will come into your life that have the same values and ideals that you have. Your goals tend to be in sync with there’s. This bond is unselfish and full of kindness, patience, trust, honesty and love. This person won’t necessarily be your partner; they could be a family member or a close friend. On a karmic level, you choose to travel with this Soul, lifetime after lifetime, for the purpose of cultivating each other’s inner growth. This is said to be a ‘Spiritual Soul Mate’.

Humanity is slowly awakening to its true spiritual nature. At the soul level we are neither male nor female; we are both, just as God is and we are all connected to that divine source. All the people that we encounter in our life are there in order to help us remember who we really are. Some of these interactions may be very brief. Even a ten minute encounter with a homeless person could occur in order that you and the other soul learn a lesson of love and compassion and you may never see that person again.

Your meetings vary in duration from ten minutes, one hour, one day, a month, a decade, or a lifetime. These encounters are not measured in time but in lessons learned. All these people that ‘show up’ in our life while we are in this physical universe are all our Soul Mates. This is how we are all linked together as one.

Bob Toledo


There is no such thing as “Death”

People asked me if I believe in life after death. My answer to them is no, because there is no such thing as death, only life continuing in a different reality. Death is not the opposite of life, life has no opposite. The opposite of death is birth. Life is eternal.

We are here to fulfill a Spiritual purpose. We may not consciously know what that purpose is but the higher self, Soul or Spirit (or whatever you choose to call it) knows and inspires and guides you to experience ‘Who you really are’. You are not your body. Your body is something that you have, not something that you are.

So be at peace with yourself and fulfill your mission here knowing that your stay here is temporary.

Tune in more to yourself and understand more within yourself so you can find your way easier. Don’t place so much emphasis on life materially, place more emphasis on it spiritually.

Death is not about anything closing down, but about everything opening up. It is a process in which you reestablish your identity.

There is no one you are close to who dies; everyone just goes on to another stage of life that runs parallel to this one. So you can be sure and know in your heart, that husband, that wife, that loved one are all very much alive.

Bob Toledo

August, 2012

The History and Benefits of Meditation

Meditation can be traced back thousands of years however; it is difficult to find the exact origin of this practice. There are records of meditation practice in the ancient culture of many Asian countries such as India, Japan and China and had a universal presence in these countries, with slight differences in styles, purposes or goals of each type of meditation. Japanese meditation for example, became Zen and Chinese meditation became Taoism, Chi Kung and Wuji Gigong.

Archaeological sites in the Indus Valley in India are dated to 3000bc and reveal figures in a meditative posture used in Yoga. So it seems evident that Yogic knowledge and meditation have been used for at least 5000 years.

After meditation gained popularity in the eastern countries, it was thousands of years before it gained acceptance in the west. During the mid-20th century however, it started to become very popular in the western countries. Research completed during the late 1960s and 70s proved many benefits of meditation and really helped it to become much more accepted in the western culture.

In modern times, meditation is a refined and evolved practice. It helps us to achieve balance physically, mentally and emotionally. Research has shown that if you meditate daily it can reduce anxiety, stress and other emotional disorders.

Meditation is the art of quieting the mind and it is proven that when the mind is quiet, concentration is increased and you experience inner peace in the midst of all the turmoil in the world. This inner peace is what attracts so many people to meditate and is something that everyone can benefit from. Today we live in one of the most exciting and yet turbulent and precarious times in the history of mankind. Despite all of our technological progress, we also live in uncertainty and fear- fear of crime, terrorism and nuclear war. We now have the ability to wipe out everyone on the face of the earth and it is no wonder that more people are turning to meditation. With all the stress of modern society, many feel a fundamental need for silence, a moment of reflection and inner peace. Meditation can reduce stress and help us relax by teaching us to turn off the worries that plague us through the day. It gives us the opportunity to spend time by ourselves.

There are also many health and psychological benefits that meditation can provide, for example, with lower levels of stress and anxiety the probability of heart disease diminishes significantly. This is not to say that meditating guarantees anyone good health. However, there is a growing awareness to the link between our state of mind and our physical health. Daily meditation is also said to decrease anxiety, and depression and increase happiness and emotional stability.

We are all seeking to have peace of mind and meditation can take you to that source of happiness. If you don’t have peace of mind than happiness will elude us no matter how successful we appear to be. By meditating, you will understand that happiness is not dependent on outer circumstances, but comes from within yourself.

While we search for the meaning of life, meditation can be a great tool. Usually we look for life’s meaning through external sources and in other people however, meditation shows us that we can gain a greater understanding of life through a higher consciousness.

Meditation can give you a new perspective on life, unclouded by our egoistic perspective and become a lifelong process of answering the eternal question ‘Who am I’?

For hundreds of years meditation has been an exclusively Spiritual practice. By quieting the mind and relaxing the body the meditator experiences deep inner peace, which leads them to higher states of awareness.

There are also many Spiritual benefits in practicing meditation, it can provide you peace of mind and give you a deeper understanding and fulfillment of ‘purpose’. It can also provide an overall experience of ‘Well Being’. Meditation gives you a much better understanding of yourself and others. It can change your outlook toward life and attain ‘Enlightenment’ with a deeper understanding of the ‘Infinite’. It also helps you to live in the ‘Present Moment’, experience an inner sense of ‘knowingness’, and opens your mind to the ‘Oneness’ in all things. It will give you a sense of ‘Completion’.

Ultimately, meditation is the practice for those of us seeking a union with our ‘Source’.

Bob Toledo
August, 2012

The Chakra System

The Chakra system originated in India between 1500BC and 500BC. The word Chakra means ‘Wheel’ or ‘Dish’. It is spelled ‘Cakra’ but is pronounced ‘Chakra’. According to Hindu tradition, The Chakras are described as spinning wheels of energy or light centers that run along the spine to the top of the head. Each Chakra represents a certain part or system of the body. Chakra healing has gained a great deal of popularity in recent years; however, the Chakra system has been studied for thousands of years.

There are seven major or central Chakras located along the spine and they govern different organs, glands and nerves. Each Chakra is associated with a color. Beginning at the bottom is the first Chakra known as the root Chakra and is located at the pubic bone. Its color is red and it symbolizes security, safety and holds the basic needs for survival. This is also the center of manifestation.

The second Chakra is referred to as the Belly (Sacral). It is located two inches below the navel. Its color is orange and holds the basic needs for sexuality, creativity, intuition and self-worth. This Chakra is about emotions and the ability to relate in an open and friendly manner to others.

The third Chakra is referred to as the solar plexus and is located two inches below the breast bone in the center behind the stomach. Its color is yellow and is the center of personal power, the ego, Passion, Impulses, Anger and Strength. It is also the center of astral influences, Receptivity of Spirit guides and psychic development.

The fourth Chakra is referred to as the heart Chakra and is located at the center of the chest area. Its color is green. This is the center of love, compassion and spirituality. This center directs one’s ability to give and receive love. This is also the Chakra that connects body and mind with Spirit.

The fifth Chakra is referred to as the throat. It is located in the neck area and its color is blue. It is the center of communication, using wisdom, truth, purity, right action, self-mastery and balance. The throat is where anger is stored and finally let’s go.

The sixth Chakra is referred to as the third eye and is located in the center of the forehead. Its color is indigo (purple/blue). This is the center for psychic ability and higher intuition. Through the power of the sixth Chakra, you can receive guidance, channel and tune into your higher self.

The seventh Chakra is referred to as the crown and is located at the top of the skull. Its color is purple and is the center of Spirituality, Enlightenment, Dynamic thought and energy which brings the gift of cosmic consciousness. This is also the center of connectedness with God, The place where life animates the physical body.

Outside of the seven central Chakras is the eight (or Gold Sun) Chakra. It is a golden, Sun-like energy center located above the head and outside your Aura and is an energy resource. Your Gold Sun Chakra oversees all aspects including your Spiritual, Mental, Emotional and physical body, also your past, present and future.

There are also ‘Secondary’ Chakras located in the feet and hands. There are no colors associated with these Chakras. The foot Chakra is located between the ball of the foot and the pad just before the toes. The foot Chakras purpose is to be a secondary grounding site. It is also a place to touch earth energies. The hand Chakra is located in the palm of the hand and brings energy in and sends energy out. In some systems this Chakra is attached to the heart Chakra by an energetic pathway that leads up the arm to the heart.

A person’s emotional and physical health is directly dependent on the Chakras so it is important to keep them in balance in order to bring about a healthy Body, Mind, and Spirit.

Bob Toledo
August 2012