About Forgiveness

Forgiveness is letting go of the past. It’s about releasing a past hurt or resentment. Forgiveness does not require justice or even an apology. The person who wronged you may not deserve to be forgiven for the heartache or grief they caused you however, your mind, body, and Soul deserve to be free of hatred, anger, pain, and hurt. Likewise, if it was you who caused the pain, forgiving yourself is just as important. The act of forgiving allows you to begin a life without chains which tie you to the past. If you want to be happy in the present and the future, you need to untie yourself from your past hurt.

Perhaps the real issue is that we should forgive ourselves for allowing that personal pain to interfere with our need to move on with the flow of life. Forgiving yourself brings inner peace that allows you to live fully. Forgiveness is a commitment to a process of change and healthy change is necessary to have a happy life and a happy life is your birthright.

Allowing negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, may find you being swallowed up by your own bitterness and a sense of injustice. Then, you become a victim twice; anxious and unable to enjoy the present while being stuck in the past.

Every act of forgiveness allows us to manifest a self-directed act of ‘soul retrieval’. Forgiveness empowers us and those who we forgive. While one may think of forgiving others of offenses (real or imagined) as ‘The right thing to do’, in reality, it is far more. Forgiveness frees one from the burden and energy drain of maintaining a connection to a past event or injury. It is a benevolent act that aids and heals others and the collective. For many, it can be one of the most difficult things that they will ever have to do. As Mahatma Gandhi once said, ‘An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind’.

There is an ancient Hawaiian practice for healing through forgiveness called Ho’oponopono, it is used when you need to forgive someone for a past transgression against you. Ho’oponopono teachers call this practice ‘cleaning’; you clean yourself of your own negative feelings and erase from your consciousness whatever negativity that is not working for you. Through this practice of ‘cleaning’ you are expressing the fact that you no longer wish to suffer from a current or past hurt. It is normal for you to wish the other person to change however; the only person you can change is you.

Another way to practice forgiveness is thru meditation. By quieting your mind, you open yourself up to the divine awareness of the present moment. Meditation will give you a powerful sense of clarity and a realization of the bigger picture. Meditation will also help you to clear all your mental and emotional negative energy and you will begin to feel an abundance of Love in your life. This will enable you to let go of the past much easier.

Forgiveness is unlocking the door to set someone free then realizing that you were the prisoner.

Bob Toledo